The Lesbian Film Archive
Parents + Daughters
The relationship between queer kids and their parents is a well trodden story in queer media, as many of the "mainstream" queer media (Love, Simon in particular) focus on a child coming out to their parents, accepting or not. In contrast, while coming out may be important in some of these lesbian films (Kissing Jessica Stein, Pariah, Love My Life) there are also films where children are already out (Hearts Beat Loud, Shiva Baby, and Everything, Everywhere, All at Once), and films where a daughter is the one learning about with their mother's queerness (Rara, The Kids are All Right, Snapshots). This category shows the myriad of of ways that queerness affects the already complicated relationship between parents and children.

In Ava's Impossible Things, Ava (Chloe Farnworth) retreats into an Alice and Wonderland like fantasy world to deal with her mother's upcoming death. Charting the relationship between mother and daughter, estranged family, and former love interests, Ava's Impossible Things deals with the stress of real life by transforming it into a dream world/

Better Than Chocolate tracks the story of Maggie (Karyn Dwyer) falling in love with Kim (Christina Cox), just before her mother and younger brother move into her apartment. Not out to her family, Maggie and Kim keep their relationship a secret, and the film tracks their clandestine relationship as well as the friendship between Maggie's mother and Maggie's friend Judy who helps her maintain her relationship with her daughter.

Everything, Everywhere, All at Once follows Evelyn (Michelle Yeoh) and her family as they encounter the multiverse. Evelyn is an unlikely hero that must save the world, as reality unravels.

A coming-of-age, lesbian take on Cyrano de Bergerac has straight-A student Ellie Chu (Leah Lewis) helping a delightful himbo (Daniel Diemer) write letters to the object of both of their affections, Aster (Alexxis Lemire). Sweet, awkward, and subtle, this film is a lovely return for director Alice Wu, and features one of the best coming of age song of all time (Seventeen by Sharon Van Etten).

In this musical comedy, single father Frank (Nick Offerman) and his daughter Sam (Kiersey Clemons) are talented muscians and music lovers. Despite Sam's clear path to UCLA, Frank wants his daughter to stay in Brooklyn with him, encouraged after a song they write goes viral. Extremely sweet and emotional, Hearts Beat Loud is a lovely movie with catchy songs, as well as two girls flirting through Mitski songs. What's not to love?

One of the first mainstream movies to show a same-sex couple raising teenagers, The Kids Are All Right follows the Allgood family, made up of Nic (Annette Bening), Jules (Julianne Moore), and their kids Laser (Josh Hutcherson) and Joni (Mia Wasikowska). Laser is curious about his biological father, a sperm donor Nic and Jules used for both of their children. When they discover their sperm donor (Mark Ruffalo) and bring him into their family, dynamics shift to accommodate him in their lives.

Kissing Jessica Stein is a classic neurotic Jewish comedy, but with some queerness imbued. Two women who are done with men decide to give each other a chance, after Jessica (Jennifer Westfeldt) finds Helena (Heather Juergensen) through her personals ad. Despite the ending, this is still a sweet romcom with a lot of warmth and love in it.

Love My Life is a Japanese film based on a Manga of the same name, about Ichiko (Rei Yoshii) a young student who wants to be a translator. The film follows the three most important relationships in Ichiko's life: her girlfriend (Asami Imajuku), her best friend (Issey Takahashi), and her father (Ira Ishida). All four main characters are queer, and the film prioritizes building a queer community.

Alike (Adepero Oduye) is a Black lesbian and poet, comfortable in her identity but not sure about how it will affect her relationship with her parents. Heartbreaking and deeply affecting, Pariah follows Alike in her choices of love, companionship, and her poetry. A film explicitly about Black queerness, writer and director Dee Rees lovingly pens this semi-autobiographical film.

In this Kenyan movie, a political rivalry between Kena (Samantha Mugatsia) and Ziki's (Sheila Munyiva) families does nothing to stop their close friendship. Despite their socially conservative surroundings, Kena and Zika's friendship blossoms into a romance, as the two girls must choose between their happiness and safety. Filmed in vibrant color, Rafiki is a love letter to the setting of Nairobi and young love.

Rara is a touching, domestic family portrait. The fillm follows 13-year-old Sarah (Julia Lübbert) as she adjusts to life with her divorced parents, where she lives with her mother (Mariana Loyola) and her mother's partner Lia (Agustina Muñoz). As her school and father attempt to get involved in her family life, Rara illustrates the ways in which homophobia can affect a family.

This touching and intimate story shows the strength in specificity. Saving Face tells the love story of Wil (Michelle Krusiec) and Vivian (Lynn Chen), as they flirt, navigate their budding relationship, and think about their future. The film also goes beyond this love story to tell a wonderful story about family as well, as Wil takes in her mysteriously pregnant mother (Joan Chen).

While at a shiva, Danielle (Rachel Sennott) cannot get a break, confronted by well-meaning but pushy adults about her plans after college, her sugar daddy she has been lying to, her ex-girlfriend, and vegetarianism. Cringing and clever, Shiva Baby is a claustrophobic horror movie dressed up for a funeral, a satisfying anxiety attack of a film.

Based on a true story, Snapshots is a heartfelt film of an older woman (Piper Laurie) telling her daughter and granddaughter about the love of her life, a woman she was in love with in the 1960s. Told mostly through flashbacks, Snapshots is an emotional picture of what could have been.
Final Thoughts: Mothers + Daughters
Although these films track a wide variety of parent and daughter relationships, the relationships between mothers and queer daughters is especially important to highlight. In Shiva Baby, Kissing Jessica Stein, Saving Face, and Everything, Everywhere, All At Once, some of the most important and touching scenes come from moments of understanding between mother and daughter. Motherhood is a common theme being explored in films today (Lost Daughter, Parallel Mothers, The Worst Person in the World were all Oscar nominated films in 2021 exploring the topic) and these lesbian films highlight how queerness can particularly impact and disrupt this relationship dynamic.